Earl
Nightingale told how on one National Secretaries Day he gave his secretary
flowers and she remarked how beautiful they were. She also said that she
couldn't understand why they didn't have any scent.
He informed her that
the flowers came from a hothouse and explained that because flowers raised in
this type of environment have everything done for them, they don't have to
attract insects to pollinate them. As a result they lose their scent. In the
same way fruit raised in a hothouse, because it doesn't need to attract insects
to scatter its seeds, doesn't taste as good as fruit grown in its natural
environment.
It's similar to the child who wanted to help a butterfly out
of its cocoon by putting a slit in it and, in so doing, caused it to die. He
didn't realize that the struggle to get out of the cocoon is needed to
strengthen the butterfly's wings so that it is able to fly.
When people
do too much for us or overprotect us, especially in our early developmental
years, they can do serious harm to us. And even in adulthood it's the problems
and difficulties we have that strengthen us, build character, give wisdom,
understanding, and compassion—if we let them.
Dear God
help me
not to run
from my fears,
trials, and problems
but accept them
as opportunities
for personal
and spiritual growth.
Thank
you for hearing and answering my prayerz
Tuesday, October 2, 2012
Monday, September 24, 2012
To Make a Life
Haim Potok, a Jewish rabbi, scholar and writer,
was born into an orthodox Jewish family in 1929. He grew up in New York City and
started writing fiction when he was only sixteen years old.
Repeatedly
his Polish immigrant parents would keep telling him, "Haim, be a brain surgeon.
You will make a lot of money and you will save a lot of people from
dying."
Time and again they would give him the same advice, "Haim, be a
brain surgeon. You will make a lot of money and you will save a lot of people
from dying."
However, Heim wanted to be a writer and after repeated
advice from both his mother and father telling him what he should do with his
life, he shouted back at his mother, "I don't want to stop people from dying. I
want to teach them how to live."
True, making a living is very important
but learning how to live is much more important.
Dear God ...
please
help me ...
to get my priorities straight ...
so that I will always live
in harmony ...
with your Word and become prosperous ...
and successful as
you define these qualities ...
Thank you for hearing and answering my
prayerz ..
The Pleasure of an Icy Caress
The man huddled on the cabin floor was slowly freezing to death.
It was high in the Rockies in southwestern Alberta, and outside a blizzard
raged. John Elliott had logged miles that day through the deep snows of the
mountain passes. As he checked for avalanches and as dusk and exhaustion
overcame him he had decided to "hole-up for the night."
He made it
wearily to his cabin but somewhat dazed with fatigue, he did not light a fire or
remove his wet clothing. As the blizzard blasted through the cracks in the old
cabin walls, the sleeping forest ranger sank into oblivion, paralyzed by the
pleasure of the storm's icy caress.
Suddenly, however, his dog sprang
into action, and with unrelenting whines, finally managed to rouse his
near-comatose friend. The dog was John's constant companion, a St. Bernard, one
of a long line of dogs famous for their heroics in times of crisis.
"If
that dog hadn't been with me, I'd be dead today," John Elliott says. "When
you're freezing to death you actually feel warm all over, and don't wake up
because it feels too good."
Life can be like that too. Millions of
people, whose lives are filled with the pleasures and occupied with the pursuits
of the world, are lulled to sleep spiritually, warm and cozy in their
complacency, oblivious to the fact that they are heading pell-mell towards a
lost eternity without God and without hope.
Dear God ...
please use me
...
to help awaken those ...
who are spiritually asleep ...
and unaware
...
that they are ...
on their way ...
to a lost eternity
...
without you ...
Thank you for hearing and answering my prayerz ..
Wednesday, September 5, 2012
Enrich Your Personal Life
Enrich Your Personal
Life
Several years ago
one grandmother sold off the old family home, pulled up her roots, left many of
her friends and activities behind, and moved to a retirement village in another
town. She had been healthy and energetic all her life, but in the last year
after her move she aged considerably and developed a terminal illness.
At age 65 another retired and set up a full-time counseling center and wrote his first book. His book became a bestseller and he has since written ten more. At age 80 he had slowed down but was still counseling and writing.
What made the difference between these two people ?
At age 65 another retired and set up a full-time counseling center and wrote his first book. His book became a bestseller and he has since written ten more. At age 80 he had slowed down but was still counseling and writing.
What made the difference between these two people ?
Like many elderly
people who retire or move to another place, the first person suffered deeply
from the loss of friends, her home of many years, and the activities she was
used to. She became lonely and life for her seemed to lose its meaning. She had
no real purpose to carry her through this time of major change and
readjustment.
The second person, however, had something to live for long before his retirement. He just continued it after "retirement."
Loneliness, emptiness, boredom, and lack of purpose are all a very real part of modern man's dilemma. They are indicative of our failure to find meaning for living and they show up in the alarming abuse of alcohol and other drugs, and in the high depression and suicide rate.
In America, for example, the most affluent country on earth, some 40,000 people take their own lives each year, while it is estimated that ten times that number attempt to. That means one person out of every 6,000 commits suicide each year. And there are countless others who, while living in the midst of abundance, to quote Henry D. Thoreau, live lives of "quiet desperation."
The tragedy in life, however, is not death, but rather, as Albert Schweitzer once said, "what dies inside a man [or woman] while he/ she lives." A person dies inside when he has no meaningful purpose outside of himself for which to live.
It is purpose—not wealth or success—that makes life worthwhile. Purpose makes even drudgery acceptable and is an immunization against many sicknesses. How then can we find more meaning and purpose to life ?
The second person, however, had something to live for long before his retirement. He just continued it after "retirement."
Loneliness, emptiness, boredom, and lack of purpose are all a very real part of modern man's dilemma. They are indicative of our failure to find meaning for living and they show up in the alarming abuse of alcohol and other drugs, and in the high depression and suicide rate.
In America, for example, the most affluent country on earth, some 40,000 people take their own lives each year, while it is estimated that ten times that number attempt to. That means one person out of every 6,000 commits suicide each year. And there are countless others who, while living in the midst of abundance, to quote Henry D. Thoreau, live lives of "quiet desperation."
The tragedy in life, however, is not death, but rather, as Albert Schweitzer once said, "what dies inside a man [or woman] while he/ she lives." A person dies inside when he has no meaningful purpose outside of himself for which to live.
It is purpose—not wealth or success—that makes life worthwhile. Purpose makes even drudgery acceptable and is an immunization against many sicknesses. How then can we find more meaning and purpose to life ?
The following tips
can help:
Getting out of yourself. Another grandmother had a large family to bring up and was widowed reasonably early in life. She had her share of heartaches but never allowed these to get her down. She lived a full and active life and had a wonderful gift for passing on cheer to those around her. Her secret was helping other people. She was active and had a deep conviction that one of the basic purposes to help people less fortunate than herself. One way she did this was through years of hospital visitation to pass on a word of comfort to the sick.
No matter how busy we are or how many problems we have, we can all find little ways to bring cheer to those around us—like bringing home a rose for your wife, a special treat for the children, a favor for a neighbor. Visit someone who is shut-in. Write a note, use your telephone, or send an email to tell a friend you appreciate him or her. Words of encouragement and acts of kindness do wonders for both the giver and the receiver.
A vital part of finding happiness and contentment is found in discovering something more important than yourself to believe in, by helping others, and by directing your thoughts and actions towards them. Egotists are seldom happy.
Love and friendship are also essential for giving life meaning and purpose. Without wholesome relationships, which give us a sense of belonging, we live as islands alone in a very large universe.
So take time for friends. They are a priceless asset in life. "Do you want to make friends?" asks Dale Carnegie, who gives the following advice. "Be friendly. Forget yourself. You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you."
And remember, as another has said, "The person all wrapped up in himself makes a very small package."
Getting out of yourself. Another grandmother had a large family to bring up and was widowed reasonably early in life. She had her share of heartaches but never allowed these to get her down. She lived a full and active life and had a wonderful gift for passing on cheer to those around her. Her secret was helping other people. She was active and had a deep conviction that one of the basic purposes to help people less fortunate than herself. One way she did this was through years of hospital visitation to pass on a word of comfort to the sick.
No matter how busy we are or how many problems we have, we can all find little ways to bring cheer to those around us—like bringing home a rose for your wife, a special treat for the children, a favor for a neighbor. Visit someone who is shut-in. Write a note, use your telephone, or send an email to tell a friend you appreciate him or her. Words of encouragement and acts of kindness do wonders for both the giver and the receiver.
A vital part of finding happiness and contentment is found in discovering something more important than yourself to believe in, by helping others, and by directing your thoughts and actions towards them. Egotists are seldom happy.
Love and friendship are also essential for giving life meaning and purpose. Without wholesome relationships, which give us a sense of belonging, we live as islands alone in a very large universe.
So take time for friends. They are a priceless asset in life. "Do you want to make friends?" asks Dale Carnegie, who gives the following advice. "Be friendly. Forget yourself. You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you."
And remember, as another has said, "The person all wrapped up in himself makes a very small package."
Another way for
enriching your personal life is by investing your life in a worthwhile cause.
Everybody needs something to live for that is bigger than him or herself—a noble
or worthwhile cause into which he/ she can put his/ her best efforts.
A few years ago I was going through a particularly difficult time. Had it not been for both my work and an outside project, I'm sure I would have cracked under the strain. My work is helping people discover more meaningful personal and spiritual values and my outside project at that time was building my own site without any help—both worthwhile causes.
A creative use of one's talents is also essential for giving meaning to life. God gave us all talents to use. When we aren't using them, we feel unfulfilled.
One man I know was very successful in his work but he was feeling very unfulfilled in it. He felt his job was too small and that he wasn't using his best talents. So he took the risk, quit his job and went back to college to train for the work he really wanted to do. He struggled for several years but today he has built a work that is helping many people, and this has greatly enhanced his purpose for living.
This is why I believe it is important to discover what your best talent is (or talents are), get the training you need to sharpen that talent, and find a place where you can use it—either in your job, in a hobby, or with a volunteer organization. God's purpose for your life will definitely involve the use of your gifts and talents in ways to help others.
Faith, hope, and charity. The poet Goethe lists nine requisites for meaningful living. They are as follows:
A few years ago I was going through a particularly difficult time. Had it not been for both my work and an outside project, I'm sure I would have cracked under the strain. My work is helping people discover more meaningful personal and spiritual values and my outside project at that time was building my own site without any help—both worthwhile causes.
A creative use of one's talents is also essential for giving meaning to life. God gave us all talents to use. When we aren't using them, we feel unfulfilled.
One man I know was very successful in his work but he was feeling very unfulfilled in it. He felt his job was too small and that he wasn't using his best talents. So he took the risk, quit his job and went back to college to train for the work he really wanted to do. He struggled for several years but today he has built a work that is helping many people, and this has greatly enhanced his purpose for living.
This is why I believe it is important to discover what your best talent is (or talents are), get the training you need to sharpen that talent, and find a place where you can use it—either in your job, in a hobby, or with a volunteer organization. God's purpose for your life will definitely involve the use of your gifts and talents in ways to help others.
Faith, hope, and charity. The poet Goethe lists nine requisites for meaningful living. They are as follows:
"Health enough to
make work a pleasure. Wealth enough to support your needs. Strength enough to
battle with difficulties and overcome them. Grace enough to confess your sins
and forsake them. Patience enough to toil until some good is accomplished.
Charity enough to see some good in your neighbor. Love enough to move you to be
useful and helpful to others. Faith enough to make real the things of God. Hope
enough to remove all anxious fears concerning the future."
There is, I am sure, no greater way to increase your hope for the future and enrich your personal life than by learning to love others more fully, by developing a vital faith in God, and discovering and fulfilling your God-given life purpose. Why not tell God right now that you want to do that and confirm your decision by becoming more involved as a volunteer in community service.
There is, I am sure, no greater way to increase your hope for the future and enrich your personal life than by learning to love others more fully, by developing a vital faith in God, and discovering and fulfilling your God-given life purpose. Why not tell God right now that you want to do that and confirm your decision by becoming more involved as a volunteer in community service.
Dear God ...
please help me ...
to discover ...
my God-given life purpose ...
and then, with your help ...
employ all of my powers ...
for the achievement of this purpose ...
And please grant that what I contribute ...
will help make the world ...
in which I live a better place ...
for others to live ...
Dear God ...
please help me ...
to live life beyond myself ...
love people, and therein serve others ...
Dear God
...
please help me
...
to increase
...
my hope ...
and trust
...
in You ...
and thereby
...
renew my strength
...
and, help me to soar
...
on wings as eagles
...
run and not be weary
...
and walk and not faint
...
Thank you for hearing and
answering my prayerz ...
Saturday, August 25, 2012
Story of resignation of CEO Punjab Agriculture & Meat Company (PAMCO) (Outsourcing Operations & Management of Lahore Meat Processing Complex)
----- Original Message
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From: Muhammad Zahid Inam
From: DR KHALID SHOUQ pakissan2002@yahoo.com
Story of resignation of CEO Punjab Agriculture & Meat Company (PAMCO)
(Outsourcing Operations & Management of Lahore Meat Processing Complex)
Punjab Agriculture & Meat Company (formerly known as Lahore Meat Company) is Govt of the Punjab owned not for Profit Organization registered under Section 42, Company Ordinance 1984.
From: Muhammad Zahid Inam
From: DR KHALID SHOUQ pakissan2002@yahoo.com
Story of resignation of CEO Punjab Agriculture & Meat Company (PAMCO)
(Outsourcing Operations & Management of Lahore Meat Processing Complex)
Punjab Agriculture & Meat Company (formerly known as Lahore Meat Company) is Govt of the Punjab owned not for Profit Organization registered under Section 42, Company Ordinance 1984.
Lahore Meat Processing
Complex (modernized slaughtering & processing facility) is one of the
projects of PAMCO. This is a joint venture project in collaboration with Mashhad
Meat Industrial Complex Iran. Salient features of this project are as
under;
History
History
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1999 Lahore Metropolitan Corporation acquired 717 Kanal land at Shahpur Kanjra 18 KM Multan Road Lahore
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May 2010, Agreements were signed by Govt of Punjab for technical consultancy & 80:20 % JV with MMIC Iran.
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Lahore Meat Company was formed under Section 42, Company Ordinance 1984 in May 2010. The position of MD/CEO was internationally advertised &Dr. Hamid Jalil was selected as CEO in July 2010.
Construction
process
Planned gestation period ~ 18 months
Completion ~ 12 month
Designing, BOQs, top supervision etc.~ MMIC Iran
Equity of MMIC Iran
Mechanical slaughtering equipment cost ~ Rs.300/-million
Equity of PAMCO Govt. of Punjab
Civil & mechanical works, etc. ~ Rs.1200 million
Total approx. project cost~ Rs.1500 million
Lahore Meat Processing
Complex ~ Features
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Mechanical slaughtering lines & processing system for beef & mutton
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Value addition through allied products
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Blood Rendering Plant, Meat & Bone Meal Rendering Plant
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Waste Water Filtration Plant
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Refrigeration & cooling system( Chilling, Blast freezing & Cold storage)
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Compliance of standards at all tiers of value chain
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Meat technology institute in collaboration with UVAS
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Contracted Internationally recognized Certification Body (Bureau Veritas Group)
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Contracted internationally recognized firm (CABROP) for e-tagging & traceability at all level
Operations
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Capacity: 500 beef & 6000 mutton animals/8hr shift
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Two shifts: One municipal & one commercial
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Local & export meat supply
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More than 2200 fattening farms registered with e-tagging system to ensure traceability system for supply of quality animals
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A meat brand, “ TAYBISH” registered
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Local Quarantine Certificate issued
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NOC awarded by Environment Protection Agency
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HACCP, ISO & Halal certification achieved
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Saudi Food & Drug Authority inspected ~ approval awaited
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Malaysian inspection for approval ~ due in May, 2012
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Mauritius approval in process
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Approval for Iran awarded
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Received demand from five Indian Ocean Islands ~ detailed finalized in consultation with Pak Ambassador & local businessmen
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Americana Company (supplier of Hardees Patties to 13 countries) visited & finalized business proposal with LMPC
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Malaysian Ambassador together with group of businessmen visited LMPC
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Received demand of by-products from Spain, Romania, China, India, etc
OUTSOURCING OPERATION &
MANAGEMENT OF LMPC
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Ready for Project (RFP) package was vetted by the Finance & P&D Department Govt of Punjab.
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RFP package was also endorsed by the third party transaction advisor (M/S Ernst & Young).
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EOI was advertised in September 2011. Only one applicant was technically pre-qualified in response of 1st advertisement on 15 Oct 2011, which was not accepted on the basis of direct conflict of interest (M/S Polyline Pvt ltd a company owned by a powerful family of Punjab, was part of the bidder consortium).Dispute started from this event.
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EOI was re-advertised. In response to 2nd advertisement, four parties submitted their bids; three parties were prequalified.
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The RFP Package, agreement and bid documents were finalized by the eight members committee including three Board members.
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Out of four bidders one party M/S CoCo Traders & other partners (M/S Dogus Makina Turkish, and MS Martha German) emerged as the final candidatewho submitted financial bid.
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The evaluation of bid was carried out by the third party transaction advisor (M/S Ernst & Young).
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The bid evaluation report and the process of O&M was thoroughly perused by the Executive Committee, chaired by Secretary Livestock in its first meeting, the committee unanimously endorsed the process and recommended M/S CoCo trader (Pvt) Ltd as a successful bidder for formal approval of Board of Directors.
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The same was discussed in the Board on 28th Dec 2011 in its 13th meeting chaired by the Chief Minister Punjab and the, “house endorsed the process of O&M of LMPC and approved the recommendations of Executive Committee to award the contract to M/S CoCo Trader at 16% ROE for 15 years, the house also authorized the CEO/Management to sign the agreement”, thereby the finality of the transaction was achieved.
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Offer letter was issued, and contract was signed with M/S CoCo Traders Pvt Ltd (on behalf of three partners, M/S Dogus Turkey, M/S Martha German & M/S COCO Traders Pakistan) on 28th February 2012 after receiving the security amount of Rs.20 million.
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To hand over the charge of LMPC to M/S CoCo traders as Licensee before the last prescribed date (1st April 2012), the M/S CoCo Traders was liable to deposit performance security bond for three months revenue (Rs.60m) and to form Special Purpose Vehicle (SPV) of the other Bid partners that is M/S Dogus and M/S Martha German.
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Accordingly, M/S CoCo Traders submitted performance bond on March 31, that was proved invalid, furthermore SPV documents were also submitted indicating SPV name ‘Lahore Industrial Meat Complex (Pvt) Limited’ with certificate of incorporation and Form 29.
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It was astonishing to note that the said SPV which was supposed to be having composition of successful bidder M/S CoCo Trader and other partners (M/S Dogus and M/S Martha German), instead, a stranger Company, M/S Polyline Pvt ltd (owned by powerful family of Punjab) was present in SPV rather than the original partners (Form 29 of M/S Lahore Industrial Meat Complex Pvt ltd).
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This was a gross violation on the part of successful bidder M/S CoCo Traders who was originally pre-qualified on the basis of strength of other partners, M/S Dogus and M/S Martha German;
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The PAMCO management decided to take legal action & emergent meeting of executive committee was called on 4th April 2012 to get the approval of cancellation process.
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It is worth mentioning here that the same stranger company (M/S Polyline Pvt ltd -owned by the powerful family which is a subsidiary of HY Corporation holding company of Sharif Family----Form A& 29 can be verified from SECP) who emerged as a part of SPV formed by the M/S CoCo Traders was rejected by the PAMCO Management in response to 1st advertisement on the basis of direct clash of interest. The PAMCO management with the support of Executive Committee of BOD issued legal notices to cancel the agreement process of handing over O& M of LMPC to M/S CoCo traders &partner’s consortium.
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Consequent upon the legal action completed on April 18th, taken against the COCO Traders/Polyline, the CM Punjab called an emergent meeting of PAMCO BOD on 20th April 9 am, without any formal notice. Only public sector members participate. There was extremely aggressive & hostile attitude against the CEO, however CEO defended the management decisions & rendered his resignation.
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The above mentioned sequence of facts is self-explanatory to understand the background of resignation of CEO-PAMCO, who faced tremendous pressure for more than three months to accommodate a company, owned by the powerful family, but ultimately responded to his conscious. Now he is facing serious consequences. His name is placed on ECL & a malicious campaign is launched against him to cover up the facts. He is put under pressure to keep restrain from revealing the truth
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WITH BEST WISHES.
May the Stars carry shine upon you. May the flowers fill your
heart with beauty. May hope forever wipe away your tears. And
above all
Love – Care – N – Smiles
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Thursday, August 16, 2012
Are you controlling them or vice-versa ?
Are you controlling
them or vice-versa ?
We humans spend much of our time trying to control every aspect of our lives. Unfortunately, too often we try and control things that are simply beyond our control. The list of what we can control is quite short, but once you know these 10 things you will be able to take control of your own life.
1. What you do: Your actions are yours alone. You choose to make them or not make them and you are responsible for the effects of those actions.
2. What you say: Likewise, the words you speak (or write) are also consciously chosen. Like actions, they have an impact on your life and the lives of those you contact.
3. What you think: Yes, there are some subconscious thoughts that you can't control. But the things that you really think about, your beliefs, your ideals, etc. are concepts you have chosen to accept and believe in.
4. Your work: Many people like to overlook this one, it being much easier to say, "Oh, I'm! trapped in my job because I don't have a degree, experience, etc." That's simple a way of denying one's responsibility in having chosen the job in the first place.
We humans spend much of our time trying to control every aspect of our lives. Unfortunately, too often we try and control things that are simply beyond our control. The list of what we can control is quite short, but once you know these 10 things you will be able to take control of your own life.
1. What you do: Your actions are yours alone. You choose to make them or not make them and you are responsible for the effects of those actions.
2. What you say: Likewise, the words you speak (or write) are also consciously chosen. Like actions, they have an impact on your life and the lives of those you contact.
3. What you think: Yes, there are some subconscious thoughts that you can't control. But the things that you really think about, your beliefs, your ideals, etc. are concepts you have chosen to accept and believe in.
4. Your work: Many people like to overlook this one, it being much easier to say, "Oh, I'm! trapped in my job because I don't have a degree, experience, etc." That's simple a way of denying one's responsibility in having chosen the job in the first place.
It's your job and you chose it. If you stay (or go), that's a choice as well.
5. The people you associate with: There's a famous T-shirt that states: "It's hard to soar like an eagle when you're surrounded by turkeys." Colloquial is very often correct! Your friends can either lift you up or bring you down. You make the decision which type of friends you wish to have.
6. Your basic physical health. Much about our health is a factor of genetics, environment, and exposure. Much more of our health is simply a matter of the decisions we make about our health, such as: diet, exercise, drugs, sleep, routine physicals, check-ups, etc.
7. The environment you live in: Your house, the condition of your home, the town you live in, the amenities available to you are all things you can control, although some to a lesser degree (i.e., you decide to tolerate them or move someplace else).
8. Your fiscal situation: Having or not having enough money is a factor of what you make versus what you spend.
9. Your time: You choose how to "spend" your time and how much of your time to give to various activities. You'll never get more time than the 24 hours your given each day.
10. Your legacy: All your actions, words, and knowledge that you share while you are living become the gift that you leave when you are gone
How To Be Strong In Hard Moments
When I was studying
in my 12 grade, a teacher, sent me a post card having these lines. "Don't be
afraid of problems. Meet them, greet them, treat them and you will surely defeat
them"
So I dedicate this
article to my teacher for teaching a wonderful lesson of life; the life which is
tougher than a teacher. Because the teacher teaches first and then takes the
test whereas life puts us in test and then teach a lesson.
These lessons come
in different tastes (mostly bitter) because of the unavoidable circumstances
such as Financial Issues, Marital issues, Clash due to difference of opinion,
Accidents and Mistakes done by us. In such situations following points can be
considered in order to cope up:
1- Confess that you have a situation which you need to face in order to fix. Yes, this is very important factor. I know a lot of people, trying to convince themselves that nothing is wrong, though stress keeps building at the back of their heads. Consequently, the stress explodes all of a sudden resulting in extreme outcomes. So the foremost thing is to tell yourself that you have to address the issue, instead of ignoring it.
1- Confess that you have a situation which you need to face in order to fix. Yes, this is very important factor. I know a lot of people, trying to convince themselves that nothing is wrong, though stress keeps building at the back of their heads. Consequently, the stress explodes all of a sudden resulting in extreme outcomes. So the foremost thing is to tell yourself that you have to address the issue, instead of ignoring it.
2- Consider if the problem is something you should be really bothering about? Ask yourself whether it is not going to impact you if not addressed? If not, simply disregard it and be happy. However, if your brain think about the problem again and again then consider point-1
3- Chose your attitude … Consider the wow approach.
4- Consider if there are other people having same problem.
If yes, check what they are doing to handle the situation. Search on internet,
visit online answering services such as yahoo or wikihow.
5- Consider if you can breakdown the problem in smaller problems and fix each problem one by one.
6- Remember, if we cannot laugh again and again on the same joke, you shouldn't be worrying on the same issue again and again. Control your thoughts.
7- Don't allow people to make your life miserable. No one
is in-charge of your happiness except you so ignore negative comments and
suggestions.
Conclusion: A wise man is the one who learns from other's mistake. If you really want to be strong, you need to develop strong observation skills. You need to closely study people on how they behave at stressful situations. So keep observing and keep learning new horizons of inner power at the cost of others' experiences.
Finally, don't give up. The successful and optimist people find solutions in nearly all kind of circumstances. So it's your choice either to be successful or to be a loser !
Saturday, July 21, 2012
Story: The Cute Student Counts the Apples
A teacher teaching
Maths to seven-year-old Laiq asked him, “If I give you one apple and one apple
and one apple, how many apples will you have?”Within a few seconds Laiq replied
confidently, “Four!”
The dismayed teacher was expecting an effortless correct answer (three). She was disappointed. “Maybe the child did not listen properly,” she thought. She repeated, “Laiq, listen carefully. If I give you one apple and one apple and one apple, how many apples will you have?”
Laiq had seen the disappointment on his teacher’s face. He calculated again on his fingers. But within him he was also searching for the answer that will make the teacher happy. His search for the answer was not for the correct one, but the one that will make his teacher happy. This time hesitatingly he replied, “Four…”
The disappointment stayed on the teacher’s face. She remembered that Laiq liked strawberries. She thought maybe he doesn’t like apples and that is making him loose focus. This time with an exaggerated excitement and twinkling in her eyes she asked, “If I give you one strawberry and one strawberry and one strawberry, then how many you will have?”
Seeing the teacher happy, young Laiq calculated on his fingers again. There was no pressure on him, but a little on the teacher. She wanted her new approach to succeed. With a hesitating smile young Laiq enquired, “Three?”
The teacher now had a victorious smile. Her approach had succeeded. She wanted to congratulate herself. But one last thing remained. Once again she asked him, “Now if I give you one apple and one apple and one more apple how many will you have?”
Promptly Laiq answered, “Four!”
The teacher was aghast. “How Laiq, how?” she demanded in a little stern and irritated voice.
In a voice that was low and hesitating young Laiq replied, “Because I already have one apple in my bag.”
“When someone gives you an answer that is different from what you expect don’t think they are wrong. There maybe an angle that you have not understood at all. You will have to listen and understand, but never listen with a predetermined notion.”
Compromizing on Ethical Values ?
Ethical values are
the treasure of each individual regardless of his/her financial wealth. However
these values are put on stake by pushing someone for specific immoral goals
achievements. In this article, I shall cover the aspects which are to be
considered while trapped in such circumstances. The article covers both
professional and personal aspects.
First of all you need to ask yourself following questions in order to have thorough analysis of the situation:
First of all you need to ask yourself following questions in order to have thorough analysis of the situation:
1- Who is getting benefit out of it?
2- Why you (and only you) are being asked/pushed to compromise?
3- What are the short term & long term personal consequences if you compromise?
4- What are the risks/impacts on the project/task if you compromise?
5- What will happen if you don't compromise?
6- Can I consult some other person for advice?
7- Can I share the risks with other by involving other personnel/department on this task?
8- What does the company policy say? Are my actions in-line with Job Descriptions?
Now that you have analyzed the situation, here are the guidelines which you need to consider for corrective and preventive actions:
1- Sometimes the matter is not really an ethical issue, it's just a difference of opinion so carefully understand on what you are being asked for. Sometimes you are doing a healthy compromise in the best interest of all stake holders (off course within your ethical values and in line with company policies)
2- If the matter is really critical, consider approaching the Fraud Management Team of your company. In some of the mature companies 'whistle blowing' or 'anonymous reporting' systems are set in place.
3- Seeking advice from your colleagues/close friends broadens your horizon and expose you to more options for consideration. Be careful whom you consider to seek advice. Ask the one who is honest and fair with you and would keep the secret in the long run.
4- Discuss the matter with your manager and document it, if possible. Make records for what you do, there is surely someone to ask later.
5- Define your principles to others quite often and show it time to time so that people know what type of person you are and what your ethical boundaries are. This is required to portray the characteristics of your personality so that others can develop a mental picture of you in their heads. This will prevent them approaching you for the wrong deeds.
6- Not every ethical issue is to be taken too much seriously, consequently, allowing it to steal your peace of mind. Every problem has several solutions. Keep it cool, stay mentally healthy, analyze the situation based on 8 points mentioned earlier in the post and then do the right act.
7- Sometimes a simple "No" helps. Just say so and put a full stop to the matter. Sometimes this is the most effective tool to use.
Muslim's approach to handle:
On top of the already explained aspects, a Muslim needs to understand the following as well:
1- Have faith in Allah and do what your religion expects from you to do. Once done, leave it to Allah and He will turn the table for you. He is suffice for all your problems provided you have done the 'right'
2- Seek wisdom from Allah. Pray for the right path and He will guide you.
3- Whatever single deed you are doing is being recorded. You are answerable for what you have been doing during your life cycle. Good deeds result in good outcome not only in this world but also on the Day of Judgment; bad deeds bad results, here and hereafter! Be Honest and be fair. Do your self-audit quite often, in line with Islamic Principles. Insha'Allah you won't regret for any of your deeds if done within Islamic boundaries.
4- Don't analyze the situation on political grounds which might divert your attention from the right path. Remember, Islam comes first. You should consider this filter for All of your problems. Anything which passes from this filter is the right thing to do.
Conclusion: Ethical Values (such as Truth, Honesty, Fairness, Transparency and self discipline) are unique treasure which you possess. Don't lose them at any cost. Your values are defining your character which is leading you towards your destiny. Sine you don't want to be a failure at the end of the day, so you need to stick to the humanitarian principles because the ultimate fact remains the same; 'As you sow, so shall you reap'. A Study confirms that the people who possess high ethical values are more happy than those who are engaged in fraudulent acts even if former earn less than the deceitful people. If you would like to read the types of Wealth.
Friday, July 13, 2012
She Spat in His Face
B. Hinn tells the following story about the days of slavery. "During the years
when slavery was legal in the United States, a gentleman happened upon a
slave-bidding in a crowed street. The man paused to observe the activities. As
he watched from the edge of the crowd, he saw one slave after another led to a
platform, their arms and legs shackled with ropes as if they were animals.
Displayed before the jeering crowd, they were auctioned off, one by one.
"Some onlookers would inspect the 'merchandise,' grabbing
disrespectfully at the women, examining the muscular arms of the men. The
gentleman studied the group of slaves waiting nearby. He paused when he saw a
young girl standing at the back. Her eyes were filled with fear. She looked so
frightened. He hesitated for a moment and then disappeared briefly. When he
returned, the auctioneer was about to start the bidding for the young girl he
had noticed beforehand.
"As the auctioneer opened the bidding, the
gentleman shouted out a bid that was twice the amount of any other selling price
offered that day. There was silence for an instance, and then the gavel fell as
'sold to the gentleman' was heard. The gentleman stepped forward, and waited at
the bottom of the steps as the young girl was led down to her new owner. The
rope which bound her was handed to the man, who accepted it without saying
anything. The young girl stared at the ground. Suddenly she looked up and spat
in his face. Silently, he reached for a handkerchief and wiped the spittle from
his face. He smiled gently at the young girl and said, 'Follow me.' She followed
him reluctantly. As they reached the edge of the crowd, he continued to a nearby
area where each deal was closed legally.
"When a slave was set free,
legal documents, called manumission papers, were necessary. The gentleman paid
the purchase price and signed the necessary documents. When the transaction was
complete, he turned to the young girl and presented the documents to her.
Startled, she looked at him with uncertainty. Her narrowed eyes asked, 'What are
you doing?' The gentlemen responded to her questioning look. He said, 'Here,
take these papers. I bought you to make you free. As long as you have these
papers in your possession, no man can ever make you a slave again.'
"The
girl looked into his face. What was happening? There was silence. Slowly, she
said, 'You bought me to make me free? You bought me to make me free?' As she
repeated this phrase over and over, the significance of what had just happened
became more and more real to her. 'You bought me to make me free?' Was it
possible that a stranger had just granted her freedom and never again could she
be held in bondage and servitude to any man? As she began to grasp the
significance of the documents which she now held in her hand, she fell to her
knees and wept at the gentleman's feet. Through her tears of joy and gratitude,
she said, 'You bought me to make me free. I'll serve you forever!'
Monday, July 9, 2012
Mind Changes
Em Griffin in The
Mindchangers said, "Some early studies concerned with prejudice show that we're
quite capable of reordering our perceptions of the world around us in order to
maintain our conviction that we're right.
"A group of white, middle-class New York City residents were presented with a picture of people on a subway. Two men were in the foreground. One was white, one was black. One wore a business suit; one was clothed in workman's overalls. One was giving his money to the other who was threatening him with a knife.
"Now as a matter of fact it was the black man who wore the suit, and it was he who was being robbed by the white laborer. But such a picture didn't square with the prejudices of the viewers. To them, white men were executives; black men were blue-collar workers. Blacks were the robbers, whites the victims. And so they reported what their mind told them they saw—that a black laborer was assaulting a white businessman.
"As human beings who desperately desire our lives to be consistent and untroubled, we'll go to great lengths to reject a message that implies we're wrong."
The more dishonest we are with our inner self, the more we will distort all truth—including God's Truth/ Word—to make it match our twisted perception of reality in a vain attempt to justify our every thought, perception, and action while totally denying our reality and real motives.
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